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Old 07-17-2012, 04:59 PM
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I'm 23 years old and meanwhile, most of my friends have gotten married.


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First of all, 23 is pretty young to get married in my book....fine if you find someone you're really sure you want to spend your life with, but don't start feeling the pressure til you at least reach 30.

How were they disgusting, and did you recognize this fact before you got together with them?

You have to really know yourself, and what you want out of life, what your values are like, before you can find someone who is really compatible.

And you have to recognize that there are plenty of perfectly wonderful people out there who will drive you crazy if you try to live with them, because they conflict somehow with the things that are important to you.

If you focus on making your own life the way you want it, and doing the things you enjoy, you have a higher chance of meeting someone who also enjoys the same things you do. And it's pretty cool when that happens.
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My aunt is fond of saying "It takes a damn good man to be better than no man at all", and I think the same applies to both sexes. Remember that, when you're considering dating someone!

If you're thinking you could do better, don't go near it - it's not going to work. Better to be single, in that case.

That said, I may not be the one to ask about relationships. I've only had two serious ones.

The first I should have known better, and listened when my family said he was a jerk [I was 18, so not really a surprise I didn't listen].

The second I thought was great, and we actually got as far as getting engaged, but he decided he didn't want to continue it a couple weeks ago. Sigh.
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If you're looking for perfection, forget it. You aren't going to find it.

And that's what dating is for. Trial and error, so you know what you like and don't like in a person . . . until you find one that's just right -- for you.

But perfection? Stuff it. Ain't going to happen. It's all a matter of perspective, too. And! Keep in mind that even if you find who you think might be "the right one," people change over the years. It's the hard work and dedication to another that pulls a relationship through the rough spots or completely off the edge of a cliff. Your choice.

So date, figure out what you think you'd want out of a relationship, weed out as you date, and then come to the notion that perfection isn't something you should be seeking in another human being.
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Hi Torsh,
If the "Perfect Woman" is as illusive as the perfect man, you'll never find her.
Though you may still find someone that's perfect for you.
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No one is perfect or so they say. You are only 23 still young to worry about relationships. Just go with the flow. It takes years to get anything right and couples and people togetherness is one of the hardest. Everyone has some kind of baggage and clashes are always nearly eminent. I know and I have a couple that I had to one walk ouy of after years of trying and the second was is well worth working hard for.
You will eventually find someone that you would want to be with and so I would say just take it easy haha.
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Yeah. First useful step: cut the unrealistic expectations. You'll never be happy.
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If you're looking for the perfect woman, give it up. Everybody has a flaw in some way, love is accepting someone for who they are, with their imperfections and all that comes with those.

Looking for the perfect woman will only have you end up alone and miserable.

Besides, are you perfect? I mean no flaw whatsoever?
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If you're looking for the perfect woman you're too late.
I have her, so there!!!
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the perfect woman?
There is no such thing. Just like there's no such thing as the perfect man.
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All of my girlfriends have been disgusting.
Why do you attract "disgusting" women? Why did they want to be with you in the first place? Why did you want to be with them in the first place?

Maybe the problem is you.
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Lol. Now thats the kind of honesty I like, Joe. Maybe if more people looked at themselves first, there'd be less judgements about others floating around.
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Well -- I didn't see his post where he described the girlfriends and couched things a bit. But the fact that he first referred to them as disgusting -- and then one as "ugly" might indicate he doesn't hold women in very high regard.

You have have to wonder why someone is attracting a string of 5 women he thinks are "emotional wrecks." And it doesn't really matter if they are -- or if he just thinks they are. Says something about him, I think. So yeah -- I'd say it's time to look in the mirror.
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I like my women how i like my wine...

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Ink, LOL! who was it that said they like their women like they like their cheese -- the older and smellier, the better.

Don't hurry to find the right one, Torsh, the trial and error process is just too fun to rush.
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Well -- I didn't see his post where he described the girlfriends and couched things a bit. But the fact that he first referred to them as disgusting -- and then one as "ugly" might indicate he doesn't hold women in very high regard.

You have have to wonder why someone is attracting a string of 5 women he thinks are "emotional wrecks." And it doesn't really matter if they are -- or if he just thinks they are. Says something about him, I think. So yeah -- I'd say it's time to look in the mirror.
My use of language could have perhaps been lighter. But I didn't really consider her "ugly" at the time. But once love turns sour, you tend to refer to things like they are. I'm sure these women aren't saying any nicer of things about me. I had to go to a lot of trouble in these relationships and at different points, but at somewhat far points, I quit. It wasn't worth it to me.
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Old 07-18-2012, 11:16 AM
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Have you tried the battleships approach?

1- Go to a nightclub, blindfolded.
2- Start shooting randomly in any direction.
3- See if any girls call the police on you.
4- If any girl doesn't call the police, she must really like you. She's the one.

I don't know how you'd know which girl likes you, since you're blindfolded n all. But you're a smart guy, I'm sure you'll figure something out.

Evidence: Worked for me!
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But once love turns sour, you tend to refer to things like they are.
Or like how you perceive them as true?
And as I have said before love is more than being perfect. People just aren't perfect, we are wired to search for our other half and sometimes you find that when you least expect it.

But if you are adamant on having the perfect woman, buy a doll, seems you can order them online just the way you want her to be.
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seems you can order them online just the way you want her to be.

It's called Pornhub luv.
Choose your favourite category and get on with it.
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I have about 4 qualifications for the "perfect woman":

1. She's pretty.
2. She likes video games and the same kind I like.
3. She has good personality traits.
4. She's unlike any relationship I've had before.
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And they don't argue either? But do their do the laundry?

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What are good personality traits? That she agrees with you on all accounts? That she will do what you say? That she never speaks her mind? That she is a virgin?

And what's pretty? Seems that the one that's now so ugly was pretty when still you liked her.
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What are good personality traits? That she agrees with you on all accounts? That she will do what you say? That she never speaks her mind? That she is a virgin?
I didn't want to talk about this because it's embarassing but, I like a woman that's kind of snobby.

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And what's pretty? Seems that the one that's now so ugly was pretty when still you liked her.
My friends can tell me if she's pretty or not.

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So you want to marry up rather than down?
You do know that with money, or snobbiness a good personality isn't necessarily present?

I know some pretty snobby characters, but I rather surround myself with some good, honest, hard-working people, who don't look down on another for not having the right phone. Thank you very much.
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So you want to marry up rather than down?
You do know that with money, or snobbiness a good personality isn't necessarily present?

I know some pretty snobby characters, but I rather surround myself with some good, honest, hard-working people, who don't look down on another for not having the right phone. Thank you very much.
I find snobby women to be leaderly. I like that trait.

So yeah, I would rather marry up than down.
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Ah, here comes the truth. You want to be dominated!

So your idea of perfect is something that a large part of society frowns upon.
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So your idea of perfect is something that a large part of society frowns upon.
Society already frowns on me for example, for liking video games. So it's only natural for society to frown on her too.
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